Being Vulnerable

Many of us have a tendency to want to look good and capable to others. We don’t exactly want to come across as perfect, but we don’t want to appear weak. We make an effort to look strong. 

Being vulnerable is hard for most of us. Yet vulnerability is necessary for true friendship. When you trust the other with your feelings and weaknesses, it shows that you are honest and unafraid to reveal your inner personhood. It means taking a risk of being misunderstood or considered weak. 

Vulnerability, however, also tells others that they do not have to be perfect, that you will understand their shortcomings and weaknesses too.  It makes them feel comfortable in your presence and able to share their own limitations. It tells them they can trust you to know how it feels to be an ordinary human being with imperfections. 

Vulnerability is actually an asset rather than a hindrance in human beings.  People are drawn to those who are not afraid to “let their hair down.” If we always put on a veneer of saintliness, others may avoid us, feeling like we may not accept them.  If we look at the people we admire, they usually have some rough edges and tender spots. They may have overcome some big challenges in their lives and that has made them softer and more appealing. Many are still struggling with abuse and mental health issues.  

Perfection is not something we should strive for. The courage to be vulnerable with others ought to be our goal.