Presents and Presence

Children associate Christmas with presents, the more the better. As we grow older, the gift of presence becomes more important. Older people still like gifts, but to see someone they love takes priority, especially if they live alone or are home-bound or ill. The Christmas season can be lonely or depressing for those who have recently lost a close relative or are separated from their family by miles or alienation. If you are at a loss for what to give an older person, spend some time with them, listen to their stories, let them know you care. It might be harder to do than sending them a plant or buying them a warm sweater or scarf, but it will mean more. Of course it's a busy time and there are many things to get done. But it will be worth it to see the smile on their face and perhaps a tear in their eye. Mary is a good example for us. Although she was pregnant with the Savior, she knew that her cousin Elizabeth was also with child in her old age and would appreciate help. It was not easy to ride a donkey over the hills of Judea to get there. It took time and effort. For Mary it was important to be present, and Elizabeth was overcome with joy to see her. Maybe this Christmas we can give the gift of our presence to someone in a care facility or a lonely neighbor or friend.